Why pursue goals in wealth, fitness, status and mastery only to find that achieving them doesn’t really change our lives very much? Here are 7 maxims on what to do instead.
Have you had two different experiences, one where you were dumped by text message, and one where you were broken up with in person? While similar sentiments were probably conveyed in both instances, the context of each likely changed your feelings about the experience and even how you then assessed and now remember the relationship. This example begins to get at what media philosopher Marshall McLuhan […]
It’s possible to have a useful conversation about what to do about something that’s broken or needs improvement. But first, we must acknowledge that it happened. It’s not controve…
Subset Park: The Rodeo Clown Theory of Personal Development
The Rodeo Clown Theory of Personal Development : ## Prelude A year ago I didn't know what I wanted to do when I grew up. I had been in the workforce since I came back to New York in 2005. I had never, blessedly, been out of a job for more than a few months, having worked as a temp, then an administrative assistant, before putting in seven years as a computer repair technician. But even within those seven years in a stable job that required at least a modicum of skill, I knew it wasn't what I wanted to *do*, and I didn't know what what I wanted to *do* was.
It’s surprisingly easy to be generous and find solutions to our friend’s problems. Much easier than it is to do it for ourselves. Why? There are two useful reasons, I think. FIRST, beca…
That’s not true for a screwdriver. Or a table saw or even a spatula. These are useful tools, but they don’t pretend to be well-informed or wise. They’re dumb, and they look dumb t…
In the present age, the word “cult” is used in a pejorative sense. But it didn’t always carry this negative baggage. Cult derives from the Latin cultus, which was originally an agri-cult-ural term referring to the cultivation of the land. The Romans, who participated in both state and private cults, used the word to describe […]
The real product-market fit : YC Startup Library | Y Combinator
Founders often believe they've found product/market fit when they haven't. This is a huge problem because they start hiring people, increasing burn, and optimizing their product before they've actually discovered what needs to be built. Here's a way to understand when you've really found product/market fit.
Sometimes, we’re so afraid of creation that we don’t even leave blank pages around. If your workspace has a hole exactly the size of a creative idea in it, you’re more likely to f…
Dreams are fine. And dreams involve contradictions. We want this AND that, but both can’t happen. That’s what keeps them from being plans. Plans embrace boundaries and reality, they don…
One day, well into Willie Nelson's long and illustrious career, a TV presenter asked the musician why he wasn’t writing all the great classic songs like
Expertise and firmly held beliefs don’t always go together. Here’s a simple XY grid to help us choose where to sit at whatever table we’re invited to: Plenty of well-trained profe…
Six years ago I celebrated my 68th birthday by gifting my children 68 bits of advice I wished I had gotten when I was their age. Every birthday after that I added more bits of advice for them until I … Continue reading →
This column will change your life: Helsinki Bus Station Theory
'The theory claims that the secret to a creatively fulfilling career lies in understanding the operations of Helsinki's main bus station,' explains Oliver Burkeman
Starting a new pet project is easy. But finishing it? That's a different story.
Many programmers love to tinker with side projects. I'll argue that most of the decent ones do, anyway. Learning new tools makes us want to build things. Innovative technologies, cool product ideas. Unfortunately, the result is